Rethought how to keep track of pending adds that need to be retried later.
The commit thread already run up every second when there are changes,
so let's keep pending adds queued as changes until they're safe to add.
Also, the committer is now smarter about avoiding empty commits when
all the adds are currently unsafe, or in the rare case that an add event
for a symlink is not received in time. It may avoid them entirely.
This seems to work as before for inotify, and is untested for kqueue.
(Actually commit batching seems to be improved for inotify, although I'm
not sure why. I'm seeing only two commits made during large batch
operations, and the first of those is the non-batch mode commit.)
