Noticed that, At startup or network reconnect, git push messages were sent,
often before presence info has been gathered, so were not sent to any
buddies.
To fix this, keep track of which buddies have seen such messages,
and when new presence is received from a buddy that has not yet seen it,
resend.
This is done only for push initiation messages, so very little data needs
to be stored.
Noticed that when pairing, sometimes both sides start to push, and the other
side sends a PushRequest, and the two deadlock, neither doing anything.
(Timeout eventually breaks this.) So, let both run at the same time.
It might even work, although nothing yet triggers XMPP pushes.
Also added a set of deferred push messages. Only one push can run at a
time, and unrelated push messages get deferred. The set will never grow
very large, because it only puts two types of messages in there, that
can only vary in the client doing the push.
