chore: bump node to v18.16.0 (main) (#37973)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v18.16.0

* build,test: add proper support for IBM i

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46739

* lib: enforce use of trailing commas

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46881

* src: add initial support for single executable applications

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/45038

* lib: do not crash using workers with disabled shared array buffers

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/41023

* src: remove shadowed variable in OptionsParser::Parse

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46672

* src: allow embedder control of code generation policy

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46368

* src: allow optional Isolate termination in node::Stop()

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46583

* lib: fix BroadcastChannel initialization location

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46864

* chore: fixup patch indices

* chore: sync filenames.json

* fix: add simdutf dep to src/inspector BUILD.gn

- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46471
- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46472

* deps: replace url parser with Ada

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46410

* tls: support automatic DHE

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46978

* fixup! src: add initial support for single executable applications

* http: unify header treatment

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46528

* fix: libc++ buffer overflow in string_view ctor

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46410

* test: include strace openat test

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/46150

* fixup! fixup! src: add initial support for single executable applications

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patches/node/enable_crashpad_linux_node_processes.patch

@@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ to child processes spawned with `ELECTRON_RUN_AS_NODE` which is used
 by the crashpad client to connect with the handler process.
 
 diff --git a/lib/child_process.js b/lib/child_process.js
-index 1bc5f92181a48e1ee37e59220ad11a755b20c9f4..d9d6a39f113151a489a3521ca8512f8ea5b1843c 100644
+index 07ad7906a7be156926d0c770c3d766c1a411203b..31061418c21d3764685110e827fc5ff536c74430 100644
 --- a/lib/child_process.js
 +++ b/lib/child_process.js
 @@ -60,6 +60,7 @@ let debug = require('internal/util/debuglog').debuglog(