chore: bump node to v20.16.0 (main) (#43029)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v20.16.0

* test: skip unstable shadow realm gc tests

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52855

* test: extend env for `test-node-output-errors`

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53535

* src: fix typo in env.cc

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53418

* src: reset `process.versions` during pre-execution

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53444

* chore: fixup patch indices

* src,permission: --allow-wasi & prevent WASI exec

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53124

* tls: use SSL_get_peer_tmp_key

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53366

* deps: update c-ares to 1.29.0

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53155

* src: account for OpenSSL unexpected version

* crypto: fix propagation of "memory limit exceeded"

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53300

* process: add process.getBuiltinModule(id)

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52762

* windows 32bit: config change callback needs to be stdcall

8f265c9d51

* fix: building with UNICODE

https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/pull/802

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script/node-disabled-tests.json

@@ -37,6 +37,7 @@
   "parallel/test-module-loading-globalpaths",
   "parallel/test-openssl-ca-options",
   "parallel/test-process-versions",
+  "parallel/test-process-get-builtin",
   "parallel/test-repl",
   "parallel/test-repl-underscore",
   "parallel/test-single-executable-blob-config",