chore: bump node to v20.16.0 (main) (#43029)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v20.16.0

* test: skip unstable shadow realm gc tests

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52855

* test: extend env for `test-node-output-errors`

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53535

* src: fix typo in env.cc

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53418

* src: reset `process.versions` during pre-execution

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53444

* chore: fixup patch indices

* src,permission: --allow-wasi & prevent WASI exec

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53124

* tls: use SSL_get_peer_tmp_key

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53366

* deps: update c-ares to 1.29.0

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53155

* src: account for OpenSSL unexpected version

* crypto: fix propagation of "memory limit exceeded"

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53300

* process: add process.getBuiltinModule(id)

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52762

* windows 32bit: config change callback needs to be stdcall

8f265c9d51

* fix: building with UNICODE

https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/pull/802

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patches/node/fix_add_property_query_interceptors.patch

@@ -13,7 +13,7 @@ CL: https://chromium-review.googlesource.com/c/v8/v8/+/5630388
 This patch can be removed when the node change is incorporated into main.
 
 diff --git a/src/node_contextify.cc b/src/node_contextify.cc
-index f6969e635f692b17b4efca1dfbee086a0199db6e..6ace71b04e9da761c77838dde2abd8088abcb6c4 100644
+index 4b7c4556d4cc94f589065409ed2a0aca497c99d0..b4d6116f0c84b0cf3e1045c6b9571fd295fe5412 100644
 --- a/src/node_contextify.cc
 +++ b/src/node_contextify.cc
 @@ -49,6 +49,7 @@ using v8::FunctionTemplate;