chore: bump node to v20.16.0 (main) (#43029)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v20.16.0

* test: skip unstable shadow realm gc tests

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52855

* test: extend env for `test-node-output-errors`

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53535

* src: fix typo in env.cc

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53418

* src: reset `process.versions` during pre-execution

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53444

* chore: fixup patch indices

* src,permission: --allow-wasi & prevent WASI exec

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53124

* tls: use SSL_get_peer_tmp_key

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53366

* deps: update c-ares to 1.29.0

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53155

* src: account for OpenSSL unexpected version

* crypto: fix propagation of "memory limit exceeded"

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53300

* process: add process.getBuiltinModule(id)

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52762

* windows 32bit: config change callback needs to be stdcall

8f265c9d51

* fix: building with UNICODE

https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/pull/802

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patches/node/fix_-wshadow_warning.patch

@@ -28,7 +28,7 @@ In file included from ../../third_party/electron_node/src/env-inl.h:32:
 1 error generated.
 
 diff --git a/src/util.h b/src/util.h
-index cd4fe2e422a7843f5a3f0f4b336a8625a0b24bcf..8edd50e598d8612144b8da9236e63f9079b99156 100644
+index 3ae876e5484f0ebacfae6749cc336f42cd69bf14..8e9e8289de249119d6b8078abe32db6b885dfaab 100644
 --- a/src/util.h
 +++ b/src/util.h
 @@ -146,9 +146,9 @@ void DumpJavaScriptBacktrace(FILE* fp);