chore: bump node to v20.16.0 (main) (#43029)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v20.16.0

* test: skip unstable shadow realm gc tests

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52855

* test: extend env for `test-node-output-errors`

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53535

* src: fix typo in env.cc

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53418

* src: reset `process.versions` during pre-execution

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53444

* chore: fixup patch indices

* src,permission: --allow-wasi & prevent WASI exec

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53124

* tls: use SSL_get_peer_tmp_key

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53366

* deps: update c-ares to 1.29.0

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53155

* src: account for OpenSSL unexpected version

* crypto: fix propagation of "memory limit exceeded"

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53300

* process: add process.getBuiltinModule(id)

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/52762

* windows 32bit: config change callback needs to be stdcall

8f265c9d51

* fix: building with UNICODE

https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/pull/802

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patches/node/build_add_gn_build_files.patch

@@ -537,10 +537,10 @@ index 0e69d7383762f6b81c5b57698aa9d121d5a9c401..35bbeb37acc7ccb14b4b8a644ec3d4c7
          cflags_c = [
            "-mavx512vl",
 diff --git a/deps/cares/BUILD.gn b/deps/cares/BUILD.gn
-index ac19ac73ed1e24c61cb679f3851685b79cfc8b39..3f253daee0f9b1faa50857f61d76de001bd8947e 100644
+index ac19ac73ed1e24c61cb679f3851685b79cfc8b39..087e27424f3997575e4e089a57955d04b8802321 100644
 --- a/deps/cares/BUILD.gn
 +++ b/deps/cares/BUILD.gn
-@@ -1,14 +1,163 @@
+@@ -1,14 +1,170 @@
 -##############################################################################
 -#                                                                            #
 -#                       DO NOT EDIT THIS FILE!                               #
@@ -582,6 +582,8 @@ index ac19ac73ed1e24c61cb679f3851685b79cfc8b39..3f253daee0f9b1faa50857f61d76de00
 +    "src/lib/ares__htable_strvp.h",
 +    "src/lib/ares__htable_szvp.c",
 +    "src/lib/ares__htable_szvp.h",
++    "src/lib/ares__htable_vpvp.c",
++    "src/lib/ares__htable_vpvp.h",
 +    "src/lib/ares__iface_ips.c",
 +    "src/lib/ares__iface_ips.h",
 +    "src/lib/ares__llist.c",
@@ -607,6 +609,7 @@ index ac19ac73ed1e24c61cb679f3851685b79cfc8b39..3f253daee0f9b1faa50857f61d76de00
 +    "src/lib/ares_dns_record.c",
 +    "src/lib/ares_dns_private.h",
 +    "src/lib/ares_dns_write.c",
++    "src/lib/ares_event_configchg.c",
 +    "src/lib/ares_event.h",
 +    "src/lib/ares_event_win32.h",
 +    "src/lib/ares_event_epoll.c",
@@ -711,7 +714,11 @@ index ac19ac73ed1e24c61cb679f3851685b79cfc8b39..3f253daee0f9b1faa50857f61d76de00
 -cares_gn_build("cares") {
 +  if (is_mac) {
 +    include_dirs += [ "config/darwin" ]
-+    sources += [ "config/darwin/ares_config.h" ]
++    sources += [
++      "config/darwin/ares_config.h",
++      "src/lib/ares_sysconfig_mac.c",
++      "src/lib/thirdparty/apple/dnsinfo.h",
++    ]
 +  }
  }
 diff --git a/deps/googletest/BUILD.gn b/deps/googletest/BUILD.gn
@@ -1256,10 +1263,10 @@ index 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000..af9cbada10203b387fb9732b346583b1
 +}
 diff --git a/filenames.json b/filenames.json
 new file mode 100644
-index 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000..fd42e2a5e6163ff70db0f716d2f9a32f13cdf668
+index 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000..679329d847fbfe303792cab5881287890c9961f4
 --- /dev/null
 +++ b/filenames.json
-@@ -0,0 +1,734 @@
+@@ -0,0 +1,736 @@
 +// This file is automatically generated by generate_gn_filenames_json.py
 +// DO NOT EDIT
 +{
@@ -1842,6 +1849,7 @@ index 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000..fd42e2a5e6163ff70db0f716d2f9a32f
 +    "src/permission/fs_permission.cc",
 +    "src/permission/inspector_permission.cc",
 +    "src/permission/permission.cc",
++    "src/permission/wasi_permission.cc",
 +    "src/permission/worker_permission.cc",
 +    "src/pipe_wrap.cc",
 +    "src/process_wrap.cc",
@@ -1963,6 +1971,7 @@ index 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000..fd42e2a5e6163ff70db0f716d2f9a32f
 +    "src/permission/fs_permission.h",
 +    "src/permission/inspector_permission.h",
 +    "src/permission/permission.h",
++    "src/permission/wasi_permission.h",
 +    "src/permission/worker_permission.h",
 +    "src/pipe_wrap.h",
 +    "src/req_wrap.h",