chore: cherry-pick tls shutdown crash fix from upstream (#39928)

patches/node/test_deflake_test-tls-socket-close.patch

@@ -0,0 +1,28 @@
+From 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001
+From: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>
+Date: Wed, 13 Sep 2023 08:04:39 +0200
+Subject: test: deflake test-tls-socket-close
+
+Move the check for the destroyed state of the remote socket to the inner
+`setImmediate()`.
+
+Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/49327#issuecomment-1712525257
+PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/49575
+Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>
+Reviewed-By: Moshe Atlow <moshe@atlow.co.il>
+
+diff --git a/test/parallel/test-tls-socket-close.js b/test/parallel/test-tls-socket-close.js
+index 667b291309a4c5636a2c658fa8204b32c2e4df46..70af760d53bb4ddab62c99180d505e943ec269f6 100644
+--- a/test/parallel/test-tls-socket-close.js
++++ b/test/parallel/test-tls-socket-close.js
+@@ -44,9 +44,9 @@ function connectClient(server) {
+ 
+       setImmediate(() => {
+         assert.strictEqual(netSocket.destroyed, true);
+-        assert.strictEqual(clientTlsSocket.destroyed, true);
+ 
+         setImmediate(() => {
++          assert.strictEqual(clientTlsSocket.destroyed, true);
+           assert.strictEqual(serverTlsSocket.destroyed, true);
+ 
+           tlsServer.close();