chore: bump node to v16.5.0 (main) (#30031)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v16.4.2

* chore: update patches

* ci: run main and remote woa tests separately

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v16.5.0

* build: restore libplatform headers in distribution

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39288

* build: pass directory instead of list of files to js2c.py

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39069

* chore: various BoringSSL/OpenSSL upstreams

- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39136
- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39138
- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39054

* test: move debugger test case to parallel

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39300

* chore: fixup patch indices

* build: pass directory instead of list of files to js2c.py

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39069

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patches/node/fixme_comment_trace_event_macro.patch

@@ -7,10 +7,10 @@ This broke the build at some point. Does it still? We should probably remove
 this patch and find out!
 
 diff --git a/src/node_internals.h b/src/node_internals.h
-index 31076551e70c46da2c32cafd7ac08aee91366537..d57c51ebcc3c9dda1ef41b10ee49453839781deb 100644
+index 8f7929994f3243fbd58b47374dfcadafb1feda8f..c333dc3464d2a23437fa22659d38dd17b6678112 100644
 --- a/src/node_internals.h
 +++ b/src/node_internals.h
-@@ -391,10 +391,11 @@ class TraceEventScope {
+@@ -386,10 +386,11 @@ class TraceEventScope {
    TraceEventScope(const char* category,
                    const char* name,
                    void* id) : category_(category), name_(name), id_(id) {